It’s been hard work
Some 8 years ago, we decided we needed a sea change.
At the time we had no idea of where we wanted to go, but had enough trust in fate to know somewhere would present itself when the time was right.
The only thing we knew for sure was it needed to be near the water because we both love it so much.
That was the only set criteria we had.
A year or so after the decision was made, we came to Townsville in order to spend Christmas with 2 of the girls and one grandchild.
After less than 24 hours of being here, we knew.
This is it.
This was where we wanted to be.
It wasn’t only the tropical weather {although that played a big part} it was the more laid back life style, the beaches, just the general feel of the the place.
We felt comfortable, the price of living was reasonable, plus there was a small part of family here, so that was a bonus.
If we’d found somewhere that had no family and felt as comfortable, we would have moved there though.
That family were here was just a bonus.
One of us had to stay behind and keep earning a living while the other went forth to the unknown in order to get a job and establish some sort of base for us, so Mark packed some clothes, hired a car and set off for Queensland.
He stayed with the aforementioned family and set about doing just that.
It took a while, but he got one.
7 months later, I threw my high paying job in, he flew down and collected me and enough stuff to give us a start.
What we bought with us fitted into a 7 x 5 trailer, and it was the bare basics.
We had no intention of spending what money we had on removalists, so we sold, gave away or left behind what we thought we could do without.
Some we put into storage, but not a lot.
It took me 8 months to get a job.
8 long months where we made do with 5 parts of bugger all money, car payments and rent to pay, and still had a need to eat, buy petrol and cigarettes, all the things that go into life.
Since I got that first job, I’ve had another 3 jobs, and I’m into my 4th.
Mark has had just as many, if not more, and finally…finally, we’re back where we started 7 years ago, just before we left Sydney.
We have good, secure, well paying jobs, and in fact Mark has just gotten a promotion and a decent pay rise, I’m a manager in a job I love, and life is on an even keel.
I can assure you, it has not been easy for the last 7 years.
It’s been bloody hard work.
We’ve had to borrow money from our family, and at times, from our children.
There have been times when we’ve come close to separating because of the stress, we’ve fought and argued, and we’ve almost ripped each other apart.
Yet, we persisted, because it’s just what we do.
It’s life, it’s marriage and it was a choice we made, with our eyes wide open.
We wanted to do it.
Would I recommend doing this to anyone else?
Hell yes.
There has been the odd moment when I wondered about our intelligence I have to say, but would I do it all again?
In a heart beat!!!
Categories: Australia, Change, Insight, thoughts
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November 8th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
This is but a lovely fairy tale, in many ways.
I think that what got both of you through these trying years of your lives was ultimately love.
I’m thinking you guys have loads of it.
Actually, I know you do.
We get our share every Friday night.
~m
there are many not as lucky to have the fairy tale ending, so we appreciate that we were lucky…very lucky…
lots of love? yeah, there is, but there have been times when that’s been overshadowed by life, and i guess that happens to a lot of people..the trick is in knowing if it’s getting the better of you….
i kinda knew you’d be the first to comment here….
thanks hon
moe
November 9th, 2009 at 6:15 am
I’m not so sure that I could just up and leave. My children were still quite young when I was in my 40’s.It would be tough to uproot a whole family and plant yourself somewhere else.I would do it but only if the opportunity was such that it would have made financial sense.
I am happy that you were able to get through those years.It sounds pretty scary to me.I think it’s cool that you are so brave and adventurous.It must be the Australian in you!
we didn’t have the kids to worry about so in that respect we were lucky…financial sense? what we did made no financial sense at all, but we thought it was worth the risk, and as it turned out, it was..
i did it another time when i moved to sydney too, and i know of at least one other time we’ll take a risk, but that will be to another country and need a little more planning…
aussies are nothing if not mad as hatters and willing to have a go at anything…
moe